For many families, the summer holidays are a chance to slow down, make memories and enjoy time together. But for parents who are separated, the six-week break can bring additional planning and communication. When a child has special educational needs or disabilities (SEND), those challenges after often even greater.

Changes to routine, unfamiliar environments and moving between two homes can be overwhelming for many children when their parents separate. For children with additional needs, this change in routine can be highly stressful. While every child is different, thoughtful planning and a consistent approach between parents can help make the summer holidays feel more predictable and enjoyable for all.

At Switalskis, our family solicitors understand that successful co-parenting is about putting children first. We work with families to find practical, collaborative solutions that support children's individual needs, both during the school year and throughout the holidays.

Why can the summer holidays be more difficult for children with SEND?

Many children with SEND thrive on routine and predictability.

During term time, school provides a familiar structure. There are regular wake-up times, lessons, meal breaks and activities that help children know what to expect each day.

When school finishes for the summer, that structure often disappears overnight, and it can be hard to adapt.

Children may experience:

• Changes to their daily routine.
• Different sleeping and eating patterns.
• More transitions between homes.
• Family holidays or unfamiliar places.
• Less access to teachers, therapists or support staff.
• Increased sensory stimulation from busy attractions or events.

These changes can lead to increased anxiety, emotional dysregulation or behavioural changes. This doesn't mean summer can't be enjoyable, but it often requires more preparation to keep things predictable.

Every child is different

SEND covers a wide range of needs, and no two children experience the holidays in exactly the same way.

Some children may enjoy trying new activities, while others find even small changes such as not wearing school uniform difficult. It’s important to address these needs with your child where possible, to help understand what additional support they may need from you, and their other parent.

The most effective co-parenting arrangements are those that recognise a child's individual needs and working towards an approach together to provide consistency across both homes.

Keep communication focused on your child

Separated parents don't always agree on everything, but when it comes to supporting a child with SEND, communication is especially important.

Sharing information about routines, medication, appointments, sensory needs or behavioural strategies can help provide consistency across both households. It’s common that these needs may change frequently, so having open communication to discuss them is crucial.

Where possible, try to discuss:

• Daily routines.
• Sleep patterns.
• Favourite foods.
• Medication.
• Therapy appointments.
• Sensory triggers.
• Strategies that help regulate emotions.
• Any concerns before handovers take place.

The more both parents understand what works well, the easier it is to support the child through transitions.

Maintain familiar routines where possible

While holidays naturally involve more flexibility, maintaining some familiar routines can provide reassurance for children with SEND.

This might include:

• Similar bedtimes.
• Consistent mealtimes.
• Familiar morning routines.
• Regular quiet time.
• Predictable evening activities.

Children don't need every day to be identical, but keeping some parts of the day consistent can reduce anxiety.

Prepare children for changes in advance

Many children with SEND benefit from knowing what will happen in advance. Giving children plenty of notice about upcoming events, routine changes and holiday plans can significantly help reduce anxiety.

Simple strategies might include:

• Visual calendars.
• Countdown charts.
• Social stories.
• Talking through holiday plans ahead of time.
• Looking at photographs of places you'll visit.

Preparing children gradually can help reduce uncertainty and make transitions feel less overwhelming and more exciting.

Make handovers as calm as possible

Moving between two homes can be emotionally demanding, particularly if routines differ significantly.

Try to make handovers:

• Calm and predictable.
• Free from conflict.
• At consistent times where possible.
• Focused on reassuring your child.

Allow children time to settle once they arrive rather than immediately filling the day with activities. Many families also find it helpful to let children bring familiar comfort items, such as a favourite toy, blanket or sensory aid, between homes.

Think carefully about holidays and day trips

Summer is often associated with exciting trips and packed schedules, but this isn't always what children with SEND enjoy most. Think about the things that typically helps your child and allows them to thrive.

When planning activities, consider:

• Sensory environments.
• Crowds and noise.
• Opportunities for breaks.
• Quiet spaces.
• Flexible plans if your child becomes overwhelmed.

Sometimes a familiar day at home can be more enjoyable than a busy attraction.

When communication becomes difficult

Not every separated family finds communication easy.

If disagreements over holiday arrangements, routines or decision-making are becoming more frequent, seeking support early can prevent conflict from escalating. Collaborative family law encourages parents to work together to find practical solutions that prioritise their child's needs without unnecessary confrontation.

This approach can be particularly valuable for families raising children with SEND, where ongoing communication is often essential.

How our family solicitors can help

Every family's circumstances are unique.

Whether you're agreeing summer holiday arrangements for the first time, experiencing difficulties communicating with your co-parent or looking for a more collaborative way to resolve disagreements, our family solicitors are here to help.

Our collaboratively trained family lawyers work with parents to develop practical, child-focused arrangements that support positive co-parenting now and in the future. Contact us by using the form below for tailored advice on your situation.