The festive period can be a joyful time for families, but for parents undergoing separation , it can also bring added pressure. Changes to routine, heightened emotions and competing expectations can make co-parenting feel more challenging than usual. However, with a mindful planning and communication, Christmas can still be a positive experience for children.

At Switalskis, we regularly support parents navigating co-parenting or child arrangements . Here are some practical ways to promote cooperation and reduce conflict over the festive period.

Plan ahead where possible

Clear planning is one of the most effective ways to avoid misunderstandings. If you have a parenting plan or Child Arrangements Order in place, check what it says about Christmas and school holidays. If arrangements are flexible, try to agree plans early so everyone knows what to expect.

Children benefit from certainty, so setting out dates, times and handovers in advance can help them feel secure and excited rather than anxious.

Focus on your child’s experience

It can be tempting to focus on what feels “fair” between parents, but it’s often more helpful to consider what will work best for your child. They may value time with both parents, familiar traditions, or simply the chance to relax without tension.

Being open to compromise, such as splitting Christmas Day, alternating key dates, or celebrating on different days, can go a long way in keeping things calm and child-focused.

Keep communication respectful and child-centred

Emotions can run high at Christmas, but clear and respectful communication is essential. Try to keep discussions practical and avoid revisiting old disagreements. If direct communication feels difficult, written messages can help keep conversations focused and reduce misunderstandings.

Most importantly, avoid asking children to pass messages or placing them in the middle of adult disputes.

Be flexible where you can

Unexpected changes happen, particularly during the winter months. Showing a degree of flexibility — for example, over travel arrangements or timing — can help prevent small issues from escalating into conflict.

Flexibility also sets a positive example for children, showing them that both parents can work together for their benefit.

When support may help

If you’re struggling to agree arrangements or communication has broken down, it may be helpful to seek advice early. Mediation can often help parents reach workable solutions without the need for court proceedings. In some cases, legal advice may be appropriate to clarify options and next steps.

Our Family team has extensive experience supporting parents through separation and co-parenting challenges, always with a focus on achieving outcomes that prioritise children’s wellbeing.

How Switalskis can help

If you would like guidance on child arrangements , or need support through separation or divorce , our family law team is here to support you. We offer clear, practical advice tailored to your situation, helping you move forward with confidence and focus on what matters most.