Steve and Mary start to get it together in their finances



By Andrew Baines, Solicitor and Family Mediator In Andrew Baines’ latest family mediation blog, we look at the story of Mary and Steve, a separating couple trying to settle their disagreements through mediation. This time, Steve and Mary* are starting to sort out their finances. “But if all we have to talk about is £95,000 equity in the house, what have we ...
 
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Switalskis Family Mediation service now offers child inclusive mediation



By Andrew Baines, Solicitor & Family Mediator I am pleased to announce that I’m now able to offer child inclusive mediation. This is an important expansion of the service offered by our Family Mediation team and here I will explain why we have chosen to offer child inclusive mediation to those coming to mediation. Child Inclusive Mediation Throughout my time in practice as ...
 
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Mediation Blog: It’s good to talk



By Andrew Baines, Solicitor & Family Mediator Mary and Steve’s* marriage had broken down. Unsurprisingly, their lives were in quite a mess. They wanted to find a way out of that mess that didn’t destroy what remained of their relationship. They chose to give mediation a try. It’s good to talk “So, you thought it was a good idea to ...
 
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Family Mediation Week 23–27 January 2017



By Andrew Baines, Solicitor & Family Mediator This week is Family Mediation Week and mediators across the country are raising awareness of mediation and its benefits for separating families. Organised by the Family Mediators Association, this year Family Mediation Week focuses on minimising the potentially harmful effect of relationship breakdown upon children. It aims to encourage separating couples to think about ...
 
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Mediation blog: We all need reassurance



By Andrew Baines, Solicitor & Family Mediator In Andrew Baines’ latest family mediation blog, we pick up the thread of Mary and Steve’s story as they try to settle their disagreements and separate in an amicable way. I had spent some time with Steve and Mary in their mediation and had spotted that they were spending a great deal of ...
 
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Mediation – more Mary Berry than Brian Cox



By Andrew Baines, Solicitor and Family Mediator Sorting out family breakdowns nowadays is done usually through either mediation or the legal process. I would liken mediation to a Mary Berry kind of way forward and the legal process more of a Brian Cox solution. So how come? The difference arises from the different principles that underpin the two processes. In ...
 
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Mediation blog: How can we talk without falling out?



By Andrew Baines, Solicitor & Mediator I wanted to get a handle on why Steve and Mary had not themselves been able to resolve their outstanding matters following the breakdown of their relationship. They were both reasonable people, well used to sorting out problems in their home and work lives. What was it about their relationship breakdown that was stopping ...
 
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Mediation blog: It’s a matter of principle



By Andrew Baines, Solicitor & Family Mediator Sooner or later a person’s principles will come up in a mediation session. This is helpful where it explains why a person has taken a particular viewpoint. It is unhelpful where the principle is used to browbeat the other party. Let me explain the difference. Mary had come to her Miams saying that ...
 
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Court or Mediation – Steve and Mary make their choice



By Andrew Baines, Solicitor & Mediator Many people think that they have to go to mediation before they can start court proceedings. That’s not correct – the rules say you need to attend a mediation information meeting before you can start court proceedings.** So the decision to go to court remains in your hands. Steve and Mary had done some ...
 
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Mediation Information Meetings – what’s in it for me?



By Andrew Baines, Solicitor & Mediator Steve and Mary had a question: why should they pay for an information meeting (known as a “miam” by mediators) when they had already decided to come to mediation? Miams are an important part of the process for mediators as it allows the mediator to get an initial handle on the problem that the ...